“Not tonight, I have a headache.” Perhaps the most common excuse of all time to avoid its “conjugal duties” does not go out of fashion (they know too many), but the decrease in sexual desire is unfortunately still today, perhaps more than in the past, a scourge that afflicts many established couples. There are many causes behind this discomfort individual or couple who can sometimes come to decree the end of an otherwise happy. Suspicions that the attitude of our partners hide an extramarital affair, it is often the first reaction in response of his desire in us.

Spectrum of betrayal are added frequently feelings of inadequacy dictated by fear of not being more attractive for the / of our / to him / her and resentment often destined to remain unspoken. Condition that can lead to expulsion, and finally to break. At the root of the problem, however, are often easy to identify and address causes: the loss of libido may be dictated by an inconvenience to the couple, a hormonal disorder, terms of psychological discomfort of either partner. In any case it is crucial to recognize that you have a problem and nourish the will to solve peacefully to pursue their individual existence and torque.

When the cause is a disorder of sex hormones may be used, of course prescription, a hormonal therapy with the assumption that a direct action of androgens on increasing sexual desire. Instead should consult a mental health professional when the problem is the result of depression or anxiety that can lead to conditions of motivation and disinterest in sexual activity. Even some medical ailments such as the cancer, l ‘hypertension and diabetes may imply a loss of libido, as well as having undergone major surgery or taking of specific drugs such as antipsychotics.

But sometimes the problem is rooted in the present relationship difficulties within the couple: the sexual desire and the intimate life are among the first pieces of the life of the couple to suffer from a lack of communication characterized by the coexistence and mutual understanding of completely devoid of emotional exchange, typical of partners who have renounced the sharing of emotions and moods. In this case it may be useful to couple therapy that helps to find partners and rethink as a couple. Of course all this may concern some particular moments of life and represent only a temporary inconvenience, but if it lasts a long time, better not sleep on it!